Sometimes doing your best looks like “falling back” (aka not doing as much) and being perfectly fine with that. My role as a mother has encompassed cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping, buying uniforms, paying for childcare, arranging transportation for my son, strategic planning, and so on. I. Am. Tired!
I told my son to brush his own teeth this morning. Now, would it be as pristine as when Mommy does it? No. But, the way my energy levels were set up this morning after a night of insomnia and an early rising to finish cooking (at 5:30am), I could care less. I thank God the toothpaste blessed his mouth this morning in whatever capacity it did. Sometimes it is ok for things to get done without your special touch.
I cannot do everything and be functional. This lack of energy is really God saying, ‘It’s ok. You’ll be fine. Perfection is not flawlessness.” Who’s to say the way we’re doings are truly effective anyway, Moms? Are you running yourself to the ground trying to get everything done for everybody that you lose sight of yourself? Yes! I’ve fallen victim to SuperMom Syndrome too-the act of putting everyone’s needs and societal expectations above mine, while we suffering in silence. Our own needs aren’t being met? When’s the last time you took a breather?
If you’re still questioning how this can even be done, consider the following:
- Go to therapy.
- Take a nap when you feel tired.
- Say no when you want to.
- Do your own makeup. (Ok. Maybe this tip is just for people like me who feel a professional Make-Up Artist is always needed for photoshoots. Hey. It would be nice).
- Allow yourself to care less about what people think.
- Don’t allow others to dictate how you spend your time.
This is a great transition into how I have been spending my time lately… doing all of the above! My mental health is important, as are my thoughts and emotions. My choice to prioritize these areas are improving how I function. People get Alzheimers for whatever reason. I have No CLUE what factors predicate this mind altering disease. However, I do know stress breaks down your mental capacities. You cannot think straight when thoughts are flooding your cranium. And, for those suffering from negative mindsets, the situation is all the more debilitating. When you are not in control of your mind, all else fails-your body, your decision-making, and eventually your livelihood. With that said, going to therapy, for example, is preventative care and maintenance.
I got a pixie cut not too long ago (bare with me, please; I’m going somewhere with this). If I mismanage this hairstyle, it’ll look crazy! Been there, done that! The same goes for my health-which includes maintaining a well-balanced mind! Everything worth having (i.e. relationships, financial success, nice things) requires maintenance.
I work as a Coach, so mental wellness is extremely important to me. But even with that role set aside, I am a living, breathing human navigating a crazy world. My mind needs to be ok and I am not compromising that for anyone!
So, a word to my fellow Mommas, Single ladies and caretakers:
Take care of yourselves.
More to come.
Love and kisses!